How to Motivate Anyone


Be it at office, home, or anywhere else, words, if used appropriately can motivate anyone. Everything else takes a backseat. Words have the power to send a person’s morale soaring or plummeting. If we learn how to use words effectively, we’ll have seriously motivated people around us.

Below are few examples of how we misuse the words, thus puncturing the motivation of people. If only we say them the other way around, their motivation will skyrocket.

At Home:

Example 1                                                         

Child shows you his /her report card. He/she has done well in al the subjects except one. Our focus will be on that one subject in which he/she didn’t do well. So instead of praising and applauding him/her for the good work done, we’ll say, ‘You haven’t done well in X subject.’ That makes the child demoralised. Instead, if we tell him/her, ‘Well done. You deserve a treat,’  the child will be happy and he’ll be motivated to do well in all the subjects next time.

Example 2

Wife has cooked biryani (or some other stuff). When after all her hard work in the kitchen, she lays the table, we send her motivation crashing by saying, ‘Salt is less or salt is more.’ Or ‘It is so spicy or there’s no spice.’ No woman, in her right frame of mind, would want to serve badly cooked food to her family. She has tons of things on her mind. So if she missed something, let’s not make a big deal out of it. If we simply say, ‘Thanks for cooking this dish’ we’ll make her day. A motivated wife is a better option than a demotivated wife. So it’s up to husbands to ensure that they keep their wives motivated.

At Office:

Example 1     

A subordinate comes to you with an idea, and instead of encouraging him, we straight away say, ‘This is not doable.’ Or ‘Looks ok but it has lot of loopholes.’ Doable or not doable, don’t discourage him by an outright rejection. Next time, he will not come to you, with any ideas. Instead if we say, ‘Good thinking’ or ‘Keep thinking.’ or ‘You are on the right track,’ the subordinate’s confidence will climb.

Example 2

A sales rep closes a deal and when he informs his manager, the sales manager says, ‘But the target is far away. You have lots to do.’ This immediately kills the spirits of the sales rep. But if the sales manager says, ‘That’s one more step closer to the target. Well done,’ the impact will be positive.

Negativity is the enemy of motivation. Drive it out from your life. Make a habit of using strong and positive words only. Tell someone close to you to point out immediately when you use weak and negative words. Even in fun avoid negativity. If you don’t have anything positive / good to say to anyone, maintain a dignified silence. Below are some words that I personally find motivating and use in my everyday speech at home and office:

M aximise

O pportunity

T ransform

I nspire

V alue

A ction

T hank you

I nnovate

O ptimistic

N ice  

-          NZ

16.6.2019





    




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