How to Survive a Character Assassination


No one flogs a dead horse. If the horse is strong and heathy and running well, then it causes jealousy among horses who aren’t so strong and healthy and are not running as well. If you are a victim of character assassination then one thing is clear; you have something in you that the one who assassinated your character doesn’t have. In an article that I read long time back, it was mentioned that there are four kinds of people who engage in this kind of damaging tactic:

They are called:

The Jealous

The Angry

The Devious

The Envious

You’ll find these kinds of people both in personal and professional life.       

The Jealous one feels missed out if you have climbed the corporate ladder within the organisation or if you are moving to another organisation at a higher level and salary. So, he decides to harm you. He will spread the word that you are not qualified for that position and blah blah.

The Angry one is someone who has lost his job, demoted, ranked poorly and you have been responsible in some way or the other for it. You must have done the right thing but the affected party doesn’t understand that. He is out to take revenge and what better way than to send an email crucifying you or talk behind your back.

The Devious are the ones who don’t hate you (neither do they like you). Like sociopaths, their intention is to hurt you, humiliate you because they derive some pervert pleasure out of doing this. They do not have a fixed agenda except to see you suffer.

The Envious can’t bear to see you at the same level or at a higher level. He/she thinks he/she is more capable than you and thus deserve to be where you are or you should be lower than him/her. They will do their best to screw up your career or life.

Whenever the damage is inflicted by any of these perpetrators, the best action is NOT TO REACT. Silence is the best remedy for badmouthing, backstabbing, and other such acts. Time is a great healer. It heals the deepest of wounds. So, it will heal this also. No need to FIGHT BACK. There are much more higher things to strive for. Focus on them. Ignore the character assassin. He doesn’t merit your attention. The problem is not with you but with him/her.

But if you are always finding yourself in such a situation that every now and then you are a target of someone’s vitriol, then it means that all is not well with you. You’d like to self- examine yourself – your actions, words, habits, and see if you can detect something that is causing others to behave in this way with you. Often the problem lies within us but we are so sure about ourselves that we are never able to see them.

-          NZ

8.11.2019
BN:182

                               

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