Some Rules of Life


                                                                  

All of us have only one life to live. Shouldn’t we make it pleasant and interesting for us? It’s in our hands to lead the life we want and not anyone else’s. There are rules that can help us in leading such a life. I’ll share some in this blog. If you wish to know more, write to me separately, and I will happily share the others too.

Rule 1

Live in the present

What is done is done. Jo ho gaya, so ho gaya. Do not dwell on it. The more you live in the past, the more detached you become from the present. And in the process, you lose valuable moments of your life. The world will pass you by and you’ll be left wondering why. By living in the present, you are in control of your existence. You can decide, plan, dream.

Rule 2

Be as you are – let others be as they are

No one is perfect. And no one can be. So why waste time in striving to become one? By all means improve your abilities, hone your skills, etc but do not fret too much about perfection. And never ever try to change anyone – that’s just not possible. Every individual has a set mind, a pattern that he / she is used to, so don’t interfere with that. Our parents, spouses, siblings, children and friends, they all are made in a particular way. Accept the way they are and accept the way you are.

Rule 3

Go outside your comfort zone

Don’t stay cocooned in one world. There are many worlds outside your world. Step out of your comfort zone once in a while, until you form a habit. The more times you venture in different zones, the more experiences you’ll have. Your life will undergo a sea change. Explore a new way to home from work, learn a new skill, face your fear, volunteer, do something that you have never done before.

Rule 4

Don’t compare

Everyone is not the same. Individuals will differ in knowledge, education, health, wealth, skills, looks and so on. If we start comparing ourselves with others, then we’ll be stuck at the same place. We can definitely learn from others and be motivated by what they have achieved or can do, that’s perfectly fine. But don’t get into the habit of saying bhala uske pass ye hai, mere pass kyun nahi?   

Rule 5

Never react – always respond

Reacting to things / incidents means you have lost control and once you do that, only escalation and deterioration will happen. Instead, respond. By responding you are in complete command. So, if someone raises his voice at you, you don’t have to do the same. If someone backbites you, you don’t have to backbite. If someone criticizes you, you don’t. Deal with such incidents (if you have to) in a cool manner. A step further is to just forget. Let it go.

-          NZ

25.5.2019


Comments

  1. saiyid zaidi25 May 2019 at 05:16

    Good one

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  2. Unknown25 May 2019 at 05:18

    Good one

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  3. Deepak Mehra25 May 2019 at 05:27

    Brilliant reminders!

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  4. Shakeel25 May 2019 at 05:57

    A brilliant write up....👍👍

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  5. Unknown25 May 2019 at 07:06

    Really awesome. I do follow these rules every day. Rising from my own ashes daily. Every day I die so that I forget what things have happened during the day and rise another day stronger n wiser.

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  6. Faiyaz Mandlik25 May 2019 at 07:55

    It is an excellent thought, if we follow it we will never get High BP and Hyper Tension 🧐👌

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