Ways to Strengthen Relationship




Relationship is like a car. It requires constant maintenance. If the car is not maintained consistently, its performance suffers. In the same way, if constant attention is not given to relationship, then that too suffers. Continuous inattentiveness will weaken the relationship.



Here are few ways, which if followed, can make the relationship stronger:



Stopping the blaming game: Blaming doesn’t work. It is the most toxic thing and should be eliminated immediately. Both partners are equally responsible in a relationship. If it is successful, then the crown should be shared, and if it is unsuccessful, then the blame should also be shared.



Considering that their side of the grass is green: Why should partners always believe that the grass is greener on the other side? It is not. A slight change in perception can make a huge difference in a relationship. Consider your side of the grass as green. Stop comparing.



Laughing off small things: No one is perfect. No one can be perfect. Imperfections in partners and / or errors committed by them should not be given too much importance. Unless something serious, they should be laughed off.



Honing listening skills: If both the partners talk, who will listen? Listening skill should be honed. When one partner is talking, the other should listen. Wives, please note. Husbands should also get a chance to make their point. By listening to each other only relationship can go forward.



Managing ego: Ego should never come between partners. It destroys a relationship. Communication breaks down. Bed gets divided into LOC. Why should I make the first move? Why should I talk first? Who the hell is he or she? I don’t care. Go to hell. These are all childish remarks. Ego is the biggest enemy of a relationship.



-          NZ

20.9.2019

BN: 133






























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